Saturday, January 31, 2015

Happiness Tip: Fail at Your New Year’s Resolution

Dr Christine Carter 
a former GPS speaker discusses reacting to setbacks and failures

Happiness Tip: Fail at Your New Year's Resolution

This week is an important one for people who made New Year's resolutions. Here's why: if you can keep your resolution for the rest of the week, you'll be much more likely to end the year having kept it, too. 

When starting a new habit, it can be frustrating to fail. But failing is also essential to the process of creating a habit that sticks. Unless you are some sort of superhero, you will not be able to get into a new habit perfectly the first time. You'll trip and fall and royally screw up-just like the rest of us. And then you'll have the opportunity to learn something from your failure that you probably couldn't have learned any other way.

In other words, faltering is a normal part of the process. It doesn't matter if you have a lapse, or even a relapse, but it does matter how you respond. If you've had a slip, don't get too emotional or succumb to self-criticism.

Take Action: If you've started faltering, the first thing to do is forgive yourself. Remember, lapses are a part of the process, and feeling guilty or bad about your behavior will not increase your future success. Make a plan for the next time you face a challenge similar to the one that caused your lapse. What will you do differently? What have you learned? What temptation did you face that you can remove? Is there something that you need to tweak? Were you stressed or tired or hungry-and if so, how can you prevent that the next time?

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