Over 200 attend Oct. 8 noon Glenbard Parent Series Event Julie Lythcott-Haims “How to Raise an Adult!”

The Glenbard Parent Series was honored to host Julie Lythcott-Haims former dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University on a book tour for her first book How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. She has written and spoken widely on the phenomenon of helicopter parenting and her work has appeared on TEDX talks, Forbes, the Chicago Tribune and others. She holds a BA from Stanford and a JD from Harvard Law. The author congratulated GPS on the breath and quality of its offerings. Here is what some participants shared after her presentation on Oct 8.

Diane Vallerugo

Diane Vallerugo, Stratford Middle School and Glenbard North Parent, shares her take away:

The speakers personal insights as a parent and experience as a college dean has her perfectly placed to bring this important message to our community-overparenting can lead to less confident and less competent kids.  Our children need to experience failure to acquire resilience. Let your child advocate for themselves. Lets reclaim childhood. Stop the focus on brand name colleges Not every moment is a make or break moment. Do one thing each day to grow your child's  independence.

Overheard in the discussions after:

• I need to stop hovering, back off and let my child experience some fairlures -so they can learn from their mistakes
• My overparenting can lead to less confidence and a lack of self-efficacy.
• We need to stop the focus on 5 schools in the country! Our children are not failures if they don't get in there! Check out the list of Colleges that Change Lives.
• Our overprotective culture need to charge-our kids feel we don't trust them to do it without us
• Stops saying "we" are going to college, "we" are on the team.
• Stop doing their homework!
• Think long term not short term
• As parents we need to think about putting ourselves out of a job
• As a parent -you can have a dream- but don't shape your child's dreams.

Matthew John Rodriguez Illinois PTA President

and author Julie Lythcott-Haims

Resources for Julie Lythcott-Haims and Raising an Adult:

"How to Raise an Adult" web site

Facebook for Dean Julie

Throw out the checklisted childhood | Julie Lythcott-Haims | TEDx

Follow up on "Conquering the Challenges of College Costs"with Frank Palmasani GPS speaker, Saturday, Sept. 26.

 

Frank Palmasani

Frank Palmasani, author of "Right College, Right Price" and creator of the financial fit online program, highlighted 30 steps you can take to save thousands of dollars in college costs and pay for college without excessive debt. This seminar shared the latest information about scholarships, financial aid, student loans and the college search process.

For more information, please take a look at Frank Palmasani's:

Financial Fit Handout

Conquering College Costs 2015 presentation slides

Follow-up on Dr. Kelly McGonigal's "The Upside to Stress" and the Use of "Values Affirmation" 

Dr. Kelly McGonigal, GPS speaker on September 15 and 16, spoke of the successful use of "Values Affirmation" in decreasing stress and increasing performance.

The Value of "Values Affirmation"

Research shows that modest school interventions can help raise grades and improve health and happiness.

May 2, 2012|by Stanford GSB Staff

The Value of "Values Affirmation"

stanford.io

Research shows that modest school interventions can help raise grades and improve health and happiness.

The importance of "Being Still"

This tip was forwarded to us by The Family Institute of Northwestern, with a challenge (not easy at this busy time of year) ..to be still. It reminds me of the times I would ask my son about his day at high school just as he walked in the door or got in my car at the end of his school day.  We figured out that was the worst time to talk.  He needed time to "chill" and process what had happened in his day before he could even consider sharing it with his parents. The tip below also mentions the importance of  modeling the behaviors we wish to instill in our children. Hope this tip is useful to your family.

What, Be Still?

Link to this TFI Tip 

Christine Carter sociologist, happiness expert and former GPS speaker shares a simple meditation practice. Learn more at our GPS event with Kelly McGonigal on Sept. 15, 7pm at Glenbard West and Sept. 16, noon at District 15 Marquardt Administration Center.

Start your own meditation practice

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Dr. Laurence Steinberg on Teen Behavior

Dr Laurence Steinberg joins us for two GPS events in January. He frowarded this article "The Terrible Teens: Whats Wrong With Them" published in this month's New Yorker magazine.

The Terrible Teens

newyorker.com

In adolescence, the brain is wired to experience pleasure more intensely than before or after. Credit Illustration by Édith Carron

Mark your calendar for the GPS events with Dr. Laurence Steinberg:

Tuesday January 26, 2016 

“Age of Opportunity: The New Science of Adolescence”

Myth-shattering, research-based information on the capacity of the teenage brain

7:00pm College of DuPage McAninch Arts Center

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

The Essential Guide to Adolescence ages 10-25: Teen Behavior Explained

12:00PM-2:30PM CCSD District 93 Administration Center

Carlotta Walls LaNier

Parents and Students Share Takeaways from GPS event "A Mighty Long Way"

At Glenbard Parent Series/Family Read kickoff event, Carlotta Walls LaNier, author of "A Might Long Way: My Walk to Justice at Little Rock Central High School," gave a first-hand account of her experience as the youngest member of the Little Rock Nine to integrate her segregated high school in 1957.

Shondra Rhodes (left) and Catera Thompson

Glenbard East student Catera Thompson and her mother, Shondra Rhodes:

Catera Thompson said, "It was an honor to listen to Carlotta Walls LaNier's presentation tonight.  What I will take away from her talk is the courage to never give up.  She never gave up when it would have been so much easier to just go home and go back to her old school.  Her ability to go back to high school - day to day and with pride - was awe-inspiring. This was a school that didn't want her and where people wanted her dead.  All she wanted was to get a better education, no matter what. Her integrity and courage are faith strengthening."

Shondra Rhodes said, "As a parent, it was wonderful to hear how Carlotta Walls Lanier's parents fortified her for life. I, too, want to prepare my children to do their best and work hard for their dreams. This was very encouraging and very inspiring."

Charhonda McGavock (left) and
Kiante McGavock

Kiante McGavock, Glenbard East Sophomore and mother Charhonda McGavock:
The Carlotta Walls Lanier event I attended tonight truly was a once in a lifetime experience! Not only did I get the chance to learn more about black history but she also helped to encourage me to become a better and more educated person not only in a classroom but life in general. This truly touched my heart to know that if someone as young as only 14 years old can be able to stand up for her rights, then nobody should be afraid to truly express their feelings and beliefs when it comes to standing up for what is right. She also helped me to realize that neither family or friends can take away your education and all young adults today should use all of that learning to their advantage. This event really showed me how I can take a second look at myself and change my motives not just for myself but for others around me so that I can set a good example for them also. ~ Kiante McGavock

The presentation that I attended tonight was an eye opener, it taught me a lot more about my history as an African American woman. Carlotta Walls LaNier was a phenomenal speaker. Sometimes you hear the same that if it didn't come from the horses mouth then you cannot expect it to be true. Well I can definitely say that Carlotta is that horse because she spoke so well of her incident at Little Rock Central High School.   I would like to thank her as well as the Glenbard East staff for allowing her to actually give this presentation about history. She brought a lot of knowledge not only to students, but to parents of those students as well.  As a Glenbard East parent, I would actually like to be able to see her again as well as many other presenters regarding our African American history. ~ Charhonda McGavock.

Aisha Fitzgerald and Gerald Triplett

Hannah Ivy (Glenbard North) and sibling
"Try harder and don't give up."

Jamia Miller GE Junior and
mother, Shondra Rhodes Williams...
"It was the best experience!"

Catera Thompson GE Junior and
mother, Kimberly Lewis:
"It was very encouraging."

GPS Speaker John Underwood Shares Insights Re: Athletes Maintaining Healthy Lifestyle

Glenbard coaches, athletes and their parents welcomed GPS Speaker John Underwood and his important message for both athletes and non-athletes.  John Underwood,  a nationally respected speaker, shared his "Life of an Athlete" program to help  athletes reach their full potential. The program provided information on achieving peak performance through nutrition, sleep and avoiding drugs and alcohol. 

Underwood referred to "Life of an Athlete" Manuals at his presentation, these references and his website can be found here:

Sleep & Recover Manual 

Power Back Diet
Life of an Athlete website

Glenbard South parent Kim Woods 

with John Underwood

At  parent and student athlete meetings/Glenbard Parent Series program on August 18, at Glenbard South and Glenbard East, international sports consultant John Underwood shared the science behind living a healthy lifestyle, including avoiding alcohol and drugs.

Glenbard South parent Kim Woods found the presentation to be very informative. "I was especially surprised to learn how detrimental marijuana is to a teen's developing brain - affecting long-term memory, reaction time and general health. The information on blue light/ technology use before bedtime delaying the ability to fall asleep was also very interesting."

Chad Hetlet, Glenbard West
Head Football Coach

The parent and student athlete meetings continued on August 19 at Glenbard North and Glenbard West. Chad Hetlet, Glenbard West Head Football Coach found great information shared at Underwood's "Life of an Athlete" morning workshop for coaches.  "What struck me was not only the importance of sleep, but the need for the body to repair itself during sleep. It was also very useful to hear that the optimal time of day to train is between 7-11 am and that the body will be able to reach its peak performance 35-50 minutes into that practice."

Coach Hetlet also stated "Another take-away for me, was that a few hours a careless partying, can wash away weeks of athletic training."

"Pressures of Perfection"

New York Times article quotes GPS speakers

Here is another important, and difficult read on the pressure of perfectionism and campus suicide.  Inside, find quotes from Frank Bruni, author of "Where You Go, Is Not Who You'll Be", one of our favorites from last year . You will also find quotes from Julie Lythcoth-Haims "How to Raise an Adult :Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success"-  sure to become one of our favorite GPS speakers this school year. Join us on Thursday, Oct 8  at noon at Glenbard South.

Suicide on Campus and the Pressure of Perfection - The New York Times

nytimes.com

Kathryn DeWitt had put on her Penn Face. But living up to expectations — her own and others’ — was just too much. Dying seemed the only way out. It wasn’t.

John Underwood "Life of an Athlete- Pure Performance to Maximize Your Potential"

The Glenbard Parent Series is partnering with the DuPage County Health Dept/Prevention Leadership Team to bring John Underwood "Life of an Athlete- Pure Performance to Maximize Your Potential" to the Glenbard Schools on August 18 and 19.

John Underwood,  a nationally respected speaker, will share his "Life of an Athlete" program to help  athletes reach their full potential. The program will provide information on achieving peak performance through nutrition, sleep and avoiding drugs and alcohol. As a trainer of Olympic athletes and Navy Seals, John Underwood has the expertise and knowledge to help teens reach their goals during their competitive years. John is an internationally recognized human performance expert, specializing in recovery, peaking training and lifestyle impact on mental and physical performance. John will present information on how alcohol and other substances affect the body and brain of adolescents and how adults can have an important impact on the lifestyle choices young people make. Underwood is a dynamic speaker who has traveled the country with this presentation, including working with coaches, parents and teen athletes.

Four Parent and Athlete Sports Orientation meetings are open to all.  Attendance is mandatory for Glenbard student athletes and their parents. No registration is required.

      Tuesday, Aug. 18

6:00 pm – Glenbard East Auditorium, 1014 S. Main St., Lombard IL  45 minutes

7:30 pm – Glenbard South Auditorium, 23W200 Butterfield Rd., Glen Ellyn IL  30 minute

Wednesday, Aug 19

6:00 pm- Glenbard North Auditorium, 990 Kuhn Rd., Carol Stream IL  30 minutes

7:00 pm – Glenbard West Auditorium, 670 Crescent Blvd., Glen Ellyn IL  30 minutes

John Underwood will address Glenbard coaches during the day on Aug 19. The two hour training beginning at 9am or noon at the Marquardt Administration Center in Glendale Heights is open to all area coaches and requires registration.

For more information contact Gilda Ross, Glenbard Student and Community Projects Coordinator at (630) 942-7668 or by email at gilda_ross@glenbard.org