Self-compassion pioneer Dr. Kristin Neff shares practices to improve mental health with GPS on Feb 22, 2022

GPS hosted Dr. Kristin Neff on February 22 to walk us through practices designed to increase motivation, foster grit and a growth mindset, and rebound from failure – all through the cultivation of self-compassion.  Our first instinct when we fail, suffer, or feel inadequate may be to criticize or to judge ourselves—but there is a better way to get through life’s hardships, says Dr. Kristin Neff. A way that enables us to achieve our highest potential and lead more contented, fulfilling lives. And that is through self-compassion --  a way of relating to ourselves kindly.

Neff says self compassion has three components (more here):

1. 1. Self-kindness vs. Self-judgment 
2. 2. Common humanity vs. Isolation
3. 3. Mindfulness vs. Over-identification

Dr. Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of inner strength training and self-compassion. She is the first to empirically study the concepts and create a simple, actionable guide proven to increase motivation, boost resilience, and improve mental health. Both an Insight Meditation practitioner and an associate professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Harvard Business Review, among others. She is also the co-developer of an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, and the co-author of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals.

Glenbard South Principal Jessica Santee hosted the event and shared the following takeaway:

 "Dr. Neff provided insight into the many benefits of self-compassion (like greater happiness and calmer households), which involves being kind to ourselves in times of struggle. Self-compassion is not about making yourself feel better at the expense of others, but rather, it involves cultivating feelings of self-worth in any setting – in success or failure. It is treating yourself the way you would treat a friend or a loved one by noticing the sadness, extending empathy and recognizing that it’s human to fail. As caregivers, we need to model self-compassion. In doing so, we let our children know that they, too, are valued and deserving of kindness."

Q and A from this event: GPS Take 5 -The Power of Self Compassion with Kristin Neff (2-16-22) VIDEO HERE

RESOURCES

Web site for Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff  HERE

Kristin Neff: The Three Components of Self-Compassion (Oct 16, 2014) VIDEO HERE

Kristin Neff at TEDx – The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion (Feb 6, 2013) VIDEO HERE

The Broken Brain Podcast with Dr. Kristin Neff - Dr. Mark Hyman (Jun 11, 2020) HERE

TED Checking In with Susan David: Self-soothing exercises with Dr. Kristin Neff  HERE

Dr. Mona Delahooke speaks on her book Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids

On March 3, the Glenbard Parent Series hosted noted clinical psychologist Dr. Mona Delahooke in a program based on her book, Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids.

Brain-Body Parenting empowers parents with tools to help their children develop self-regulation skills while also encouraging parental self-care, which is crucial for parents to have the capacity to provide the essential “co-regulation” children need. When parents shift from trying to secure compliance to supporting connection and balance in the body and mind, they unlock a deeper understanding of their child, encouraging calmer behavior, more harmonious family dynamics, and increased resilience.

Delahooke is a licensed clinical psychologist with more than 30 years of experience caring for children and their families. Her just released book is Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids. She is a senior faculty member of the Profectum Foundation, an organization dedicated to supporting families of neurodiverse children, adolescents, and adults. She is a trainer for the Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health and is a member of the American Psychological Association and holds the highest level of endorsement in the field of infant and toddler mental health in California, as a Reflective Practice Mentor (RPM).

Rebecca Sulaver ,Glenbard Assistant Director of Teaching and Learning, hosted the event and shared the following takeaway:

"Mona Delahooke wants caregivers to de-emphasize behavior management and shift the lens from consequences/punishment of challenging  behaviors, to an understanding that the behavior IS the message.  Look at like what lies beneath -the tip of the iceberg. What is happening in the body, brain and the central nervous system ? Does the child feel safe? Kids do well if they can. Observe, Interpret, then take action to meet their needs. Create a toolbox (breathing techniques, exercise, music, journaling, self-talk) to calm. Understand some stress is necessary to grow. What works: elevate the relationship with your child-make it a top priority! Find simple moments to connect, and play, so all can restore".

A recording of the Q and A from the event is HERE

RESOURCES

Website for Dr. Mona Delahooke HERE 

Dr. Mona Delahooke Podcasts HERE

Bright and Quirky Interview with Dr. Mona Delahooke and Dr. Stephen Porges VIDEO HERE

Bright and Quirky Interview How to Approach Kids’ Challenging Behaviors, with Dr. Mona Delahooke VIDEO HERE

What Does it mean to Look Beyond Behaviors? (Feb 3, 2021) VIDEO HERE

The Most Important Question To Ask About Children’s Behavioral Challenges VIDEO HERE

Take 5: Preview of Dr. Mona Delahooke’s event VIDEO HERE

David Epstein discusses his latest book, "Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World" at GPS event on Jan. 26, 2022

On Jan. 26 the Glenbard Parent Series  hosted David Epstein in a program titled, "The Secrets of Success"  based on his book, Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World. 

In his book, Range, Epstein examined the world’s most successful athletes, artists, musicians, inventors, forecasters, and scientists. He discovered that in most fields—especially those that are complex and unpredictable—generalists, not specialists, are primed to excel. Generalists often find their path late, and they juggle many interests rather than focusing on one. They’re also more creative, more agile, and able to make connections their more specialized peers can’t see. He also makes a compelling case for actively cultivating inefficiency. Failing a test is the best way to learn. Frequent quitters end up with the most fulfilling careers. The most impactful inventors cross domains rather than deepening their knowledge in a single area. 

David Epstein is an investigative reporter at ProPublica and prior to that was a senior writer at Sports Illustrated.  He has also written the New York Times best-selling The Sports Gene: Inside the Science of Extraordinary Athletic Performance. Epstein is a graduate of Columbia University where he earned a bachelor’s degree in environmental science and astronomy and a master’s degree in environmental science and journalism.

David Epstein held a Q and A with distinguished Glenbard representatives following his webinar, link HERE.

Dr. Seth Champman, Assistant Superintendent for Finance & Operations, hosted the event and shared the following takeaway:

"David Epstein shared his research-based perspective that for most children 'sampling' of many opportunities in sports or the arts will be more beneficial, and lead to greater overall success and happiness, than early 'specialization'.

 While having an early focus in one particular arena can yield positive outcomes in the short-term, the students who take more of a generalist approach to their extracurriculars experience enjoy larger gains over the long term.  Epstein recommends we talk to our children to understand what they enjoy, and  to help them discover what they learned from any given activity. 

 Always remember, setbacks and challenges do have an upside, as they provide an opportunity for personal growth. Many high profile (and highly successful) people have struggled early on,  and only achieved their successes much later in life, later than we may realize".

Thank you to our additional sponsors for this event: Deerfield Parent Network, Stand Strong Coalition, Parent Community Network, Link Together Coalition.

Resources

David Epstein web site HERE

Range Widely: Broadening your cognitive toolbox (newsletter) HERE

An Introduction to "Range" by David Epstein YouTube video HERE

WGN TV interview "Author David Epstein, `Range` says practice doesn`t make perfect"  (Jun 2019) HERE

Making the Modern Athlete: A Conversation with David Epstein and Malcolm Gladwell (Mar 2019) HERE

Are athletes really getting faster, better, stronger? (Apr 2014) TedTalk HERE

Why specializing early doesn't always mean career success (Sep 2020) TedTalk HERE

David Epstein discusses his book, "Range", with Daniel Pink at Politics and Prose (Jul 2019) HERE

Range Widely: “My dad threw me into every sport you could imagine.” article (Sep 2021) HERE

Range Widely: "Even Tiger and Mozart Weren't Tiger and Mozart" article (Dec 2021) HERE

15 Takeaways for Coaches and Parents from Range article by Marianne Werdel HERE

Amy Morin speaks to GPS on helping young people develop mental strength

On January 19, Amy Morin returned to GPS discussing her latest book  "13 Things Mentally Strong Kids Do".

Adults can struggle with how to best help their children balance everything: homework, extracurricular activities, chores, friendship drama and family. Too often, young people try to look in control, while they may feel unhappy, anxious and insecure on the inside. 

Psychotherapist Amy Morin shared tools to develop healthy habits and the mental strength to overcome life’s toughest challenges. She provided a guide to help young people think, feel and act stronger than ever.

Amy Morin never disappoints. She has an important message that is meaningful for young people and adults alike.   Morin has a gift for communicating insights and inspiration. She leaves her audience with takeaways that can make all the difference in the world.

Morin is editor-in-chief at Verywell Mind, psychology lecturer at Northeastern University and a bestselling author. Her books include “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”, “13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do” and “13 Things Strong Kids Do.”

Josh Chambers, Assistant Superintendent of Human Resources hosted the event and shared the following takeaway:

"Amy Morin shared the tools to help our students' stay flexible, positive and empowered. I appreciated her suggestion to teach children to  treat themselves with kindness -to talk to  themselves the way they would talk to a good friend. 'What would you say to a friend in a similar situation?'  As parents we need to model calm, optimism and stay present in our child's life. We can teach habits of emotional strength and resilience."

Resources

Amy Morin's web site: https://amymorinlcsw.com/

Amy's Verywell Mind Podcast: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-verywell-mind-podcast-5113058

Take 5 videos from Amy's GPS visit on January 29, 2020

GPS Take 5 for Adults: Amy Morin on Raising Mentally Strong Kids https://youtu.be/KI7qndi61sQ

GPS Take 5 - Teen Talk: Am Morin on Be Resilient, Build Your Mental Muscle  https://youtu.be/T3aI6AeFEX0 

Audio: James Altucher Show: 13 Things Strong Kids Do (BUT really for Adults) with Amy Morin

 Video: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.

Video: Forbes: Are You 'Mentally Strong'?

Video: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Avoid.

Video: TEDx Talks: The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong | Amy Morin | TEDxOcala .

Video: Good Day: Being a Mentally Strong Parent.

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Lydia Denworth speaks on The Extraordinary Power of Friendships- in the Real & Virtual World

 

On December 7, 2021 the Glenbard Parent Series hosted science journalist Lydia Denworth, the author of "Friendship: The Evolution, Biology and Extraordinary Power of Life's Fundamental Bond." 

Denworth explained how the social brain gets built, the importance of social and emotional learning for healthy development, and how building good friendship skills early in life sets children and adolescents up for a long, healthy, and happy life.

Denworth addressed whether friendships are changing in the age of social media, as well as the effects of the pandemic on young people’s social lives. She provided guidance for parents to help as life gets back to normal.

Lydia Denworth is a contributing editor for Scientific American and writes the Brain Waves blog for Psychology Today. Her work has also appeared in The Atlantic, Newsweek, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Time, Spectrum, and many other publications. She is the author of three books of popular science; Toxic Truth, I Can Hear You Whisper and Friendship. Lydia, her husband, and three sons, split their time between Brooklyn and their sustainable farm in Central New York.

You may view the program at  https://youtu.be/MuDp23MYge0

Former Glenbard East parent Lyle Bohnert shared the following takeaway:

"Denworth shared the science of why even one good friendship will help our children live longer and healthier -- it's about quality, not popularity. Friendships are critical to our ability to succeed and thrive lifelong. Parents need to model it, value it, and make time to teach friendship skills. Help them practice listening and being positive and reliable. Explain that changing friends at the start of middle/high school and college is normal. Helping them bond with others over similar interests or connecting over a keyboard with people may be a great place for them to build their confidence (check in to make sure they are safe). Understand that when teens are with other teens ‘peer presence’ risk taking can happen." 

RESOURCES

Adolescence is an Age of Opportunity By Lydia Denworth | May 2021 | Scientific American

TedTalk Archives: The science of friendship | Lydia Denworth May 22, 2018

Armchair Expert Pod Cast: Dax Shepard with Lydia Denworth March 26, 2020

Interview with Dr. Robyn Silverman "How to Talk to Kids about the Lifechanging Benefits of Friendship" with Lydia Denworth September 21, 2021

Lydia Denworth's web site

Katie Hurley presents Positive Thinking for Teens: Tools to Improve Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Inspire Motivation

On December 1, 2021, the Glenbard Parent Series hosted Katie Hurley LCSW  author of "The Happy Kid Handbook"  in events titled "Positive Thinking: The Tools to Improve Mood, Build Self- Esteem and Motivation". 

Katie Hurley, LCSW, and child and adolescent psychotherapist, spoke on how parents and educators can identify the symptoms of stress and anxiety and understand how to help when teens struggle. Hurley's presentation helped adults understand the role personality type plays in how young people interact with the world around them, process stressful situations, and cope with obstacles. 

Katie is also a parenting educator, public speaker, and writer. She is the author of the award-winning No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls; The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated; and The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World. Hurley covers mental health, child and adolescent development, and parenting for The Washington Post, PBS Parents, Psychology Today, Everyday Health, PsyCom, and US News and World Report

Glenbard North Principal Dr. John Mensik co-hosted the program and shared the following takeaway:

“Katie Hurley shared useful tips, for teens and adults, to combat negative thought patterns and reframe mindsets to positive, productive thinking. With empathy, support and validation, adults can help students check in with their emotions, disrupt anxious thinking and learn the tools for adaptive coping strategies. 'Our teens are experiencing something we, the adults, have never experienced'. With connection, and communication, and by encouraging self-care, we can empower students to tap into their individual strengths and interests to find confidence, and courage. As Hurley reminded us- we are all a work in progress."

Click here to view the program:  https://youtu.be/o77w4scEICga

Video of Katie Hurley Student Q&A https://youtu.be/7HUHZuNLrPg

Resources

Katie Hurley's web site https://practicalkatie.com/about-me/

Link to PBS/WTTW for Parents articles by Katie: https://www.pbs.org/parents/authors/katie-hurley-lcsw

U.S. News article by Katie Hurley: 6 Things to Know About Childhood HERE

Dr. William Stixrud & Ned Johnson speak to GPS on their book What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Stress Tolerance, Motivation, and a Happy Home

On Nov. 17 the Glenbard Parent Series hosted Dr William Stixrud and Ned Johnson in programs based on their most recent 

book,  "What Do You  Say: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". 

In their first book The Self-Driven Child, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson shared the tools needed to enhance a child’s drive, confidence, and healthy decision-making to move children of all ages from powerlessness to purpose. They also provided the action-steps needed to help students improve academic performance, enhance career success, and support positive emotional well-being. Stixrud and Johnson, who have 60 years combined experience talking to young people one-on-one are back to teach us “What Do You Say?” in order to help turn these concepts into action.

In their latest book, Johnson and Stixrud explains how to engage in respectful and effective dialogue, beginning with defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking. They also teach new ways to handle the thorny topics that usually end in parent/kid standoff such as; delivering constructive feedback to kids; discussing boundaries around technology; explaining sleep and their brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving.

William R. Stixrud, Ph.D., is a clinical neuropsychologist and founder of The Stixrud Group, a lifespan neuropsychology practice. Dr. Stixrud holds a doctorate degree in School Psychology from the University of Minnesota.  Ned Johnson is the president and founder of PrepMatters. Since 1993, Mr. Johnson has devoted in excess of 35,000 hours in one-on-one test prep for nearly the entire alphabet of tests. His experience includes work with all ages and abilities in preparation for SSAT and ISEE to ACT and SAT to GMAT, GRE and LSAT.

Melissa Creech, Glenbard Executive Director of Teaching and Learning welcomed the speakers and shared the following takeaway: 

"A teen's strong connection with a parent is key! Without judgement, with understanding and empathy, validate their feeling to foster closeness. Teens need a sense of autonomy. Move to the role of consultant/manager and mentor rather than monitor. 'I can't make you do this. I have confidence in your decision-making.'  It's essential for the adults to manage their own stress and anxiety first-calm is contagious."

To view the program go to: https://youtu.be/aYMFZPgovA0

Resources

What Do You Say? by William Stixrud, PhD and Ned Johnson, read by Ned Johnson, PRH Audio 

The Case for the Self-Driven Child, Scientific American, by Gareth Cook on February 13, 2018

William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, "The Self-Driven Child"Mar 28, 2018, Politics and Prose YoutTube

Notes on this event with Dr. Stixrud and Ned Johnson, courtesy of Agnes Knott, Hersey High School

Ned Johnson's PrepMatter's website: https://prepmatters.com/

Glenbard Parent Series program addresses youth suicide, anxiety and depression

 On Sept, 28 the Glenbard Parent Series hosted mental health advocate Ross Szabo and clinical psychologist Jason Washburn Ph.D. in a program titled "Behind Happy Faces: Suicide, Let's Talk About it".

Ross Szabo is an award-winning pioneer of the youth mental health movement and the CEO of the Human Power Project.  He is the author of Behind Happy Faces: Taking Charge of Your Mental Health and A Kid’s Book About Anxiety.  He has spoken to more than 1 million students about the importance of mental health and provided a positive example to empower them to seek help.

Dr. Jason Washburn joined us to help provide an understanding of common mental health conditions such as anxiety and depression and their individual differences, is licensed clinical psychologist.  Dr. Washburn spoke on suicide myths and facts, suicide contagion, risk factors, as well as warning signs, and provided prevention tips for parents and students. He is the Director of the Center for Evidence-Based Practice at Amita Health, a Professor at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine where he is the Director of Graduate Studies for the MA and PhD programs in Clinical Psychology, and Director of Research in the Center for Childhood Resilience at Lurie Children’s Hospital.

Assistant Superintendent for Student Services, Janet Cook shared remarks following the program and this  takeaway:

"Normalize mental health, seeking help is a sign of strength, and the earlier, the better.  Educate your child about their family history, and  yourself on the warning signs.  Empower your child, don't enable them. Turn confrontation into conversation-always leaving the door open to talk.  Ask open-ended questions.  Check in regularly, do not fear asking directly about suicide, it saves lives: remain clam, nonthreatening, respond with empathy, reassurance and validation, letting them know you care, and that help is available. Help them prioritize the positives, model healthy coping strategies and self-care. The schools are engaging in the worked needed to support mental health and will keep moving forward in this area."

RESOURCES

Hear a brief recap of Ross Szabo's presentation and view the entire message from Dr. Jason Washburn (YouTube)

Ross Szabo's web site

Take 5: Parent Preview - Ross Szabo on Teen Mental Health

Visit the Center for Childhood Resilience web site (Dr. Jason Washburn)

NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness: Kids, Teens and Young Adults

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. Learn more
800-273-8255

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Dr. Lisa Damour returns to GPS to discuss Stress, Anxiety and Parenting Under COVID

On September 23, New York Times best-selling author Lisa Damour, Ph.D. returned to the Glenbard Parent Series in an event titled “Stress, Anxiety and Parenting Under COVID” as part of its September Suicide Awareness Month programming.  She examined the science of stress and anxiety and offer practical tools to best manage emotional overload. Her insights offered an approach that allows each of us to keep pressure manageable during these difficult times.

Glenbard North  parent Rebecca Elmore shared the following takeaway: 

"Dr Damour offered important insights for us to share with our children. We need to rethink stress, it is necessary for growth building. Life will bring sadness sometime-good mental health is having the right feeling, at the right time. Discover the coping strategies that  work for you-breathing techniques,  healthy  distractions to step away from the issue, and protect periods of rest. Help your teen name the emotion they are feeling. Then, it's our job to listen without interruption, 'Is there anything I can do that won't make this worse'?  Offer empathy, validate, remain clam- to  help collect their emotional trash."

A recap of the Question and Answer session of this event can be found here

Resources

WGN Radio interview with Dr. Lisa Damour on September 16, 2021

GPS Take 5: Parent Preview – Dr. Lisa Damour on The Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Youth (YouTube)

Lisa Damour on CBS Evening News: How to Manage Stress and Anxiety Amid the Coronavirus Outbreak  (YouTube) Mar 18, 2020

Lisa Damour website

Browse Damour’s “Ask Lisa” podcast archive.

Watch Damour’s January 1, 2021 CBS This Morning segment with Gayle King on teen mental health during the pandemic.

Read Damour’s April 28, 2021 New York Times article, “Eating Disorders in Teens Have ‘Exploded’ in the Pandemic.”

Download Damour’s PDF, “When a Teenager’s Friend is in Crisis.”

Watch/Listen to Rich Roll’s 2019 podcast interview with Damour, “Teens Under Pressure.”

Read Damour's NYT article November 15, 2017 "Why Your Grumpy Teenager Doesn’t Want to Talk to You"

Read/print/download Lisa's Free Mental Health One-Sheets:

HAVE A QUESTION? - info@drlisadamour.com

 

Frank Palmasani shares how to navigate the college admissions process

On Wednesday, Aug 25 GPS hosted author Frank Palmasani at a Financial Aid presentation titled Conquering the Challenge of College Costs. Navigating the college admission process can be difficult, however, finding valuable options at a great price is possible.  Frank Palmasani, author of Right College, Right Price and creator of the Financial Fit online program can help make that happen.

Frank Palmasani has been dedicated to helping families find affordable college options for more than 30 years.  He started learning about the college financial aid process in 1976, his first year as a high school counselor.  In 1981, he moved to the college level, eventually becoming a director of admissions. He has since returned to the high school arena as a guidance counselor, a job he continues to enjoy today.  Out of these experiences, Palmasani created the Financial Fit program to reverse the trillion-dollar student debt problem—a problem that had no proven solution before now. His ideas have already helped more than 200,000 families keep college affordable, making it possible for students to graduate without excessive debt.  He is a member of NACAC, IACAC, and the College Board.  Palmasani has been featured in the Boston Herald, the Chicago Tribune, Yahoo Finance, WGN-TV, WTTW-TV, CBS’s Monsters and Money in the Morning, and is the author of Right College, Right Price.

Glenbard South parent Steve Friedman shared the following takeaway: 

"Make sure you are openly communicating with your child's college representative to determine the best method to support your child's unique financial aid package, before counting out a college because of the sticker price. Don't assume help is not available. Early, proper planning is key to finding the best financial fit for students and their families."

The link to the program can be found HERE

RESOURCES

Handouts for this event (PDF)

Conquering College Costs 2021 presentation slides (PDF)

Website for Frank Palmasani/College Countdown

Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) 

FAFSA form